a tall order

I am in the mood for a good fantasy novel, but I have a few requirements that are making the search a bit difficult.

I want:

a strong female protagonist
a magical element featuring Fae/Sidhe, but not vampires/werewolves. I am not looking for another Twilight
High fantasy or urban dark fantasy
a love story is fine but I do not want a romance novel
general fantasy fiction or YA

I’m thinking something similar to Holly Black’s Tithe or the kind of strong female characters found in Robin McKinley and Tamora Pierce’s novels.

I will gladly take all recommendations 🙂