the view from Sunday, 2.25

reflections on movement and aging well

on movement

I turned 40 last year, and if there’s one thing I’ve learned as the daughter of two senior parents with complicated health issues, it’s that movement is essential to positive health outcomes. No, movement isn’t a cure for everything—medical care is crucial and should be a human right, but we all know how that is going, at least in America. But back to movement… I have a complicated history with movement. I hated the run laps around the gym/sit-ups/public shaming of childhood gym class. I also had a weird history with medical professionals that convinced my mom that exercise was bad for my back. Hello, spina bifida occulta. Yes, I have a bad back, not engaging in core exercises was probably not the best idea, but here we are.

My small collection of dumbbells

My love of movement started in my 20s, when I started with walks around campus, which later morphed into interval runs, 5ks, yoga, and Pilates at home (thank you, local library DVDs). Enter full time employment, long commutes, and hours of sitting at a desk for work and creative pursuits, and my relationship with movement started to look a little different. It became harder to run every day, so yoga for more than 20 minutes a few times a week, or do more than catch a few minutes of walking during my breaks. I have a love/hate relationship with my office—it’s beautiful, the location gives me ample opportunity to walk in nature, but my 2-hour commute is a killer for movement. Over the last 10 years (wow!), it’s done a number on my physical wellness. Add several injuries over the last 4 years (I am the Queen 👑 of stupid falls), and I hit 40 feeling like I was never going to get my stamina back.

So, last year, I made it my mission to do something about it. I started lifting weights… light weights at first, because a shoulder injury in 2020 led to a biopsy that led to an “inconclusive” discovery, and 5 years later, I’m due for my yearly check-up to make sure nothing has changed.

getting a biopsy in the middle of the pandemic was an experience

All that to say, my right shoulder has been through it and I still don’t know why it likes to hurt on occasion, though I now know how to recognize the signs to prevent further injury.

Last June, I started doing Lift with Cee’s full body lifting workouts, using 5 and 8 lb weights, and struggling to complete some of the moves.

Nearly 7 months later, I’m up to 15s and 12s, using the 8s and 5s for the moves that trigger the shoulder twinge, or when that luteal phase is hitting hard. I’m lifting 3 days a week and I have seen the changes in my body, but the greatest change is knowing that I’m taking steps towards ensuring that I can continue to be independent as I age. I hurt my knee last April (like I said, lots of injuries), and being able to bend into a squat has been such a blessing. I’ve done physical therapy for the shoulder and the knee, and both times, my main goal has been to be able to get back to a place where I can continue to engage in movement without pain.

My dad had hip surgery when I was in college, so about 18 years ago. Because of complications, he never fully recovered. His arthritis has only gotten worse and he has reached a stage where he is in near constant pain and severely limited in his mobility. Anything can happen between now and the time I reach my dad’s age, but I know that the best thing I can do to prepare for that is to keep moving and build strength to support my already genetically messed up joints.

Here’s to aging well 🥂


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off the shelf: what I read Oct – Dec 2024

all the books I read and listened to between Oct and Dec 2024… a reading recap

Disclaimer: The cake rating is my totally subjective, entirely arbitrary rating system. If I finished it, you can assume I enjoyed it regardless of the rating. 5 🍰‘s generally mean that I absolutely loved it and will/have purchased a copy for my personal collection.

Read

Window Shopping by Tessa Bailey 🍰🍰🍰

See Rebel Yule for my sudden desire for holiday reads. A sweet, Christmas-themed workplace romance with a grumpy sunshine pairing. If you like a second-chance-at-life-after-serving-time arc (her), this one might be for you.

The Masterful Cat is Depressed Again, Vol. 5 by Hitsuzi Yamada 🍰🍰🍰

This series continues to be adorable. I’m taking my time reading the volumes I’ve collected (and have the last two releases on my wish list). If you’re looking for a cozy read about an anthropomorphic cat who takes care of his human, look no further.

Welcome to the Hyunam-dong Bookshop by Hwang Bo-reum 🍰🍰🍰🍰

A cozy read set in a Korean bookshop. This book has been on all the lists and for good reason. As I usually find with Korean (and Japanese) lit, lessons on life and philosophy are woven within the cozy vibes. Highly recommend if you want a quiet, meditative read.

The Wedding Witch by Erin Sterling 🍰🍰🍰

An unexpected Christmas book from a series I associate with Halloween shenanigans. The Ex Hex is one of my feel good faves and this was a sweet winter addition to the series.

Things We Never Got Over by Lucy Score 🍰🍰🍰🍰

Picked this one up on a whim after seeing it at the library. I wasn’t sure what to expect, but I was sucked in from the start. One thing I’ve learned over the last year: I’m definitely a small town romance girl. If you like a found family, second chance at romance, somewhat enemies to lovers, with a side plot of intrigue, TWNGO might be for you. It’s on the long-side of contemporary, which might be a plus if you ever found yourself wishing your romance was longer.

The Wisteria Society of Lady Scoundrels by India Holton 🍰🍰🍰

I started this series with book 2, which may have ruined the experience of book 1. It was fun, but the charm of book 2 stole the show for me. Flying houses, secret witch societies, pirates… dastardly deeds. It’s a silly romp.

Audiobooks

Strongmen: Mussolini to the Present by Ruth Ben-Ghiat 🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰

This book has been recommended on all the anti-fascist reading lists and for good reason. It’s an incredible piece of historical analysis and a reflection current affairs. Not a light read but an excellent work if you want to understand the strongman playbook that we’re seeing in action.

Trigger warning for all kinds of abuses. If you can think of it, the people referenced in this book probably did it. You will need to read/listen to something lighthearted after this one.

Rebel Yule by Kate Meader 🍰🍰🍰

I’m not usually a holiday book girlie, but the times called for some holiday cheer this year. This was my second Kate Meader books this year and it was a nice little treat. The narrator did a Norwegian accent for the MMC that was pretty endearing. A sweet little story that was just what I needed this year.

The Dragon’s Bride by Katee Robert 🍰🍰🍰

So… I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m not a monster romance person, but I was intrigued by the demon that strikes the series of bargains that serve as the catalyst for this series. I’m adding that one to by TBR (it’s The Demon’s Queen, in case you’re wondering).

DNF

Sex and the Psychic Witch by Annette Blair

It was a little too of its time… maybe I’ll try it again at a later date. Just wasn’t hitting for me.

📖I track my reading habits on LibraryThing and Storygraph.

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video: One nice date in January ✨🍲 My Year of Less (spending on dining out!)

Come along for a Hot Pot dinner for two with appetizers and a boba for him 😊 As part of my “Year of Less” project, I am trying to stick to two planned dates per month as a way to enjoy dining out, and keep the cost within reason, while making it feel special.

Total cost for this date (including tip): $59.59

What’s your favorite cheap date?

the view from Sunday (redux) 1.25

If you’ve been around these parts for a while, you might remember a series called “the view from Sunday.” These were weekly-ish musings on life, writing, books I was reading, activities I was enjoying, etc. It’s been a while since I’ve had a regular posting schedule and I’ve missed the opportunity to engage with you all through the blog. That’s not to say the vlogs are going away–not at all–but in an effort to reconnect with activities that bring me joy and comfort, I’ve challenged myself to regular blogging in 2025.

Emilia and Fig cuddling in bed on a Saturday morning.

I can’t promise that I’ll always be on time (or that a new post will always go up on Sunday), but I can promise to do my best. Which is all we can ever do.

It’s been a rough week. There have been a lot of emotions, many of them fear-based, but I refuse to lose hope or give in to despair and acquiescence. To that end, I am cultivating pockets of joy and comfort amid the chaos, turning to crafts, yoga, and daily movement to restore my energy and maintain my peace. I’m also reading (mostly romance, some non-fiction, and a bit of fanfiction), and making progress on the latest draft of book 2 of my upcoming romance series.

Emilia attempts to paint.

All in all, I’m pushing on, staying informed, but not giving in to panic. My current strategy:

  • Stop doom-scrolling. Set time blocks. Focus settings are your friend.
  • Rest. Like, for real. Go to sleep. Take the melatonin gummies. Buy the good pillows. Do what you have to do.
  • Read or watch something that brings you joy and does not trigger your stress response.
  • Romanticize your life. Not in a toxic way, but a love this little life sort of way. Make home a have.
  • Move. Walk, dance, run, lift, stretch. Just keep your body going. (After an unfortunate number of injuries, I really appreciate the power of movement).
  • Journaling. I keep a nightly journal that I use to document the day-to-day, but I also have a morning pages journal for brain dumping, and recently started using a commonplace book to collect quotes and wise bits.

And now, I have these posts.

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Note to longtime readers: In case you missed the last year’s update, I changed my name to Emilia Grace on most of my socials to align with my penname.

video: My Year Of Less 🛒 Two Low Spend Grocery Hauls (January 2025)

In an effort to spend less and be better prepared for migraine days, I’m back to my old ways and shopping with the intent to meal plan/prep. Join me for two, low spend, intentional grocery hauls as I re-evaluate my relationship with food spending. Plus, a few examples of the meals I prepped 😄

The big haul should last most of the month, allowing me to fill in the gaps with less.

🛒 January 3rd

BJs Wholesale haul

Buying in bulk at BJs to get meal prep essentials, replacements, and a small splurge.

Total: $162.29

🛒 January 13th

Wal-Mart haul

Filling in the gaps, buying ingredients for soup making, essentials, and cat food 🐈🐈.

Total: $131.03

video: Quiet Days ✨ (25.1) Cozy weekend reset before heading back to work

The first vlog of 2025! Spend a cozy weekend with me.

It’s the first vlog of 2025!

Catching up on my goals, reading self-help books, and sorting out my life—wrestling with past life choices, meal prep, planning, and more.

Spend a cozy weekend at home with me before I head back to work after the winter holiday.

video: My 2025 Life & Writing Goals 📔🖊️ | planning for success

Grab your favorite beverage and join me for a chatty update on my goals and planners for 2025 😄

This year, I’m trying new things and re-establishing old habits to have a more productive writing schedule, improve health, and meet money goals.

My planners for 2025: HB90 quarterly and yearly goal planner, Inamio (Hobonichi dupe) weekly planner, and Commit30 for 30-day fitness goal planner.

My goals include:

  • Growing this channel hint hint
  • Publishing my debut novel/starting my self-publishing business (and all that comes with that)
  • Save twice the amount I saved in 2024
  • Increase strength and progressively overload
  • Weekly Pilates practice
  • 30 days of Yoga in January (and regular yoga for mobility support)
  • Less dining out, more cooking at home/regular meal prep for my health and wallet
  • Setting the foundation for future home ownership

video: My year of less 💵✨ My 2025 low/no buy goals

My 2025 No/Low Buy Rules and Savings Goals

And we’re back!

Join me for Year 2 of my Low/No Buy Project. Tips for doing a low/no buy based on what I learned in 2024, and my money and savings goals for 2025.

My 2025 Low/No Buy Rules: Only 15 non-essential item limit (ie. the “pretty things”).

⛔ No clothing (except replacements – investing in key pieces and second hand options), new books (except the two I preordered) – read what I have, teas, hair accessories, lotions, makeup, perfumes, bags, blind boxes, “cute stuff without a purpose,” pens.

Limit dining out.

video: 2024 no/low buy results

my December budget review and recap of my 2024 low/no buy savings challenge

Join me for a review of my December budget and a recap of my 2024 low/no buy rules and goals. Plus, all the ways I failed at sticking to those rules, and realizing that those categories are not the real problem at all.

December was another $0 savings month, but that was expected.

Summary:

  • $363 saved in Q4
  • $2432.67 saved in 2024 overall

My biggest challenge this year was dining out.

My No buy rules for 2024 included:

NO beauty bath hair accessories bags, etc. clothes tea books stationary fragrances excess consumables

Overall, I failed, but my spend in these areas was not as bad as my dining out spend.

video: the last vlog of 2024! and a vlogmas playlist

Hi! Hello! Long time, no post. ICYMI, I’ve been busy on YouTube and planning more vlogs and content for the new year. Catch up with my last vlog of 2024, or join me for a recap of my somewhat relaxing, somewhat sniffly Vlogmas.

Stay tuned for my 2024 budget recap and 2025 goals, coming this week 😄